Marriage is a teamwork. From the very beginning of our relationship, my husband and I have adopted a Thai saying, "Rao Mee Rao" which means "We have us" (we have each other). We are together forever! To make "we" work, the "I" mindset has to go. Team Us: Marriage Together offers tips and advice to help couples strengthen team unity in their marriages. The author shares about her own experiences and other couples' real-life stories to show us how to navigate through trials, struggles, and challenges while keeping the team unity intact. Her husband, Ted, chimes in from time to time throughout the book to share his thoughts. Nice bonus!
The topics covered in the book include grace, different preferences, conflict, losses, parenting, friendship, commitment, and more. Each chapter starts with an insightful marriage quote and ends with five questions for discussion. The author encourages readers to make today's decisions with a long-term perspective/a desired goal in mind. How will what we do now affect our marriage next month, next year, or in the next decade? Our daily choices matter...they either help or harm/hinder the strength of our marriage. I enjoyed Ashleigh's conversational style, candor, and humor. I could relate to some of the stories because I've been there and done that (my husband and I have been married for almost 24 years). I highly recommend this refreshing & encouraging read to any couples, especially engaged couples and newlyweds. It would make a wonderful wedding gift or Valentine's gift!
"It's fine that we don't always favor the same things since we are confident in our connection at a deeper level. While we may have day-to-day differences, we're on common ground heart-to-heart. We've learned to respect, not ridicule, the other's interests." (p. 56)
"The keys to our longevity are found in those moments we decide to assume the best of each other instead of the worst. In those times we choose forgiveness rather than bitterness. On those days we offer grace, not irritation. How well we do is influenced largely by the seemingly small, blink-of-an-eye choices." (p. 151-152)