Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family: Avoiding the 6 Dysfunctional Parenting Styles (David C. Cook, January 2015)
We all want to guide our children into the abundant life that Jesus offers. But when we pursue the more and better that the world offers above our pursuit of Jesus, we fall into dangerous parenting habits. In Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family, Michelle Anthony unpacks six common dysfunctional parenting styles that we fall into out of habit, lack of attention, or just oversight due to busyness. If you long to show your children Jesus but don't know how to do it, you'll find hope in this practical guide to creating a relentlessly grace-filled home that is focused on God as first in charge.
Includes Scripture guides, reflection questions, ideas for family rites of passage, and other real life family examples.
Michelle Anthony is the vice president of Learning Resources and Family Ministry Architect at David C Cook and the author of Spiritual Parenting, Dreaming of More for the Next Generation, A Theology of Family Ministry, and The Big God Story. Michelle has graduate degrees in Christian education, theology, and leadership and over twenty-five years of church ministry experience as a children's and family pastor. She lives in Colorado Springs and loves a good book and a cup of coffee.
Parents usually care about their children's health and do their best to make sure they are healthy physically, emotionally, mentally, and socially. How about spiritually? It's very important for Christian parents to help their families become spiritually healthy and stay that way. The author shows us the 6 dysfunctional parenting styles that we should avoid: having divided devotion, being permissive, pressuring to succeed, overbearing, criticizing, and being unavailable. God is writing and directing our stories and our children's stories. If we want the abundant life God envisions for our families, it's best for us to follow His script and not try to write our own. We don't have to live with dysfunction. Parenting is difficult and challenging, even more so when you have special needs children. However, God's Word and principles still apply. The author uses Biblical truths to offer us hope and give us healthy solutions for our families. The book covers several topics such as worry, worldliness, Enemy, truth, freedom, bitterness, spiritual battle, perfectionism, perspective, letting go of the need to control, brokenness, blessings, family mission statement, discipleship, traditions, and more. I like the 4 steps in responding to today's families on page 99 and I really like Chapter 9: Beyond Good Behavior and Chore Charts. Heart transformation, not behavioral modification, is what we want for our children. Gospel-living, not moralism, is what they need.
Each chapter starts with an insightful quote and ends with thought-provoking questions for readers to reflect and respond. The book includes Appendix A: The Ten Environments, Appendix B: Questions to Consider in Writing a Family Mission Statement, Appendix 3: Forms to help you write a mission statement. I highly recommend this practical, Biblically sound book to all parents, especially Christian parents!