Monday, October 20, 2014

Book Review: Yes or No by Jeff Shinabarger

About the Author:
Jeff Shinabarger is a social entrepreneur and author of two books: More or Less and Yes or No. Jeff has a vision to make Atlanta a center for social innovation and has personally engaged in over 100 start-ups solving problems through the community he leads called Plywood People. His work has been featured by CNN, USA Weekend, Atlanta Journal Constitution, Huffington Post, Christianity Today, Coca-Cola, Relevant Magazine and Chicago Sun Times. He is the co-founder of Q and creatively led Catalyst for 8 years. Jeff and his wife, Andre, live in East Atlanta Village and have two children.

My Review:
Every day we have to make choices. We know that there are consequences to our choices. Some decisions are easy to make because there are no serious, long-term consequences. But other decisions are huge, life-altering, and world-impacting. A young adult/adult's life presents many opportunities for decision-making on significant issues such as choosing a college, major, career, spouse, house, etc. We desire to make wise choices but sometimes it can be quite difficult and challenging. We don't know what to do. Too afraid? Too overwhelmed? Too indecisive? The author helps us readers explore our natural decision-making styles, identify our philosophy of choice, and employ key strategies in order to make good/right choices. He groups decisions into 3 categories: daily decisions, moments of tension, and transition times. This book focuses mainly on the last two. 

Each chapter starts with an insightful quote and ends with a "Take Action" section (how to put ideas into action) and thought-provoking questions for groups to ponder and discuss. The author shows us crucial factors to consider when making a decision and guides us through six steps in the decision-making process so that we can improve our decision-making skills, become discerning & confident decision makers and capable & courageous problem solvers. Decision-making is very important because it usually affects not only our own lives but also other people's lives. The author asks wonderful questions about our motives: "Am I loving people, or am I loving the idea of doing good? Do I desire the best for each person I come in contact with, or do I desire to feel the best about myself for the good I am doing?...Is this for the good of others, or is it making me look and feel good?" (p. 65) I think most of us (if not all) have struggled with these from time to time. The fear factor is also addressed.

The author shares his tested wisdom learned from his own experiences and offers us practical advice from a Christian perspective. I'm glad I made the right choice to review this book. When I first received this book, my 21 year old daughter needed to make an important decision so she borrowed the book and finished it in one day. Even though she still didn't feel ready to make her decision at that time, she found the book helpful. Yes or No is a great informative read for anyone, especially those in leadership. We can make a difference in this world with our decisions. We all are given the gift of choice. May we use it wisely, conscientiously, and for God's glory! 

"I believe that the words yes and no are the most powerful words in the dictionary. They define what we love, what we will be known for, and what we will do with our lives...These are definitive words: words that significantly change the trajectory of life." (p. 20)
"The difference between our lives and a page-turning book is that we can't go back and start over... Our choices determine our future." (p. 29)
"At each stage, life is meant to be lived. Wherever you are in your journey, fully embrace the experiences you live in right now, because these experiences prepare for tomorrow." (p. 34)
"As we move forward on the path God has for each of us, I can't state strongly enough that true wisdom comes with seeking God, not self." (p. 85)
"Once we begin to find God's wisdom, discern the significance of our own experiences, and gather knowledge from others, we have the tools to curate life in a meaningful way." (p. 91)
"Much of the joy of life can be found when we realize what a great privilege it is to live intentionally making choices, remembering all that God has given." (p. 154)

*If you would like to take the free decision-making style assessment, visit .

~ I received a free copy of this book via Icon Media Group in exchange for my 
honest review. All opinions are my own.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Review: The Family Toolbox

Do you agree with me that parenting must be the most challenging and the most rewarding job in the world :)? My husband and I have been doing this job for over 21 years; yet we are still learning, growing and figuring things out. Our two sons who are still at home are 16 and 13. I'm so thankful for the opportunity to review the Family Toolbox, a fantastic parenting resource from National Center for Biblical Parenting. The Family Toolbox is a DVD program that helps parents and teens engage in meaningful discussions, equips parents with valuable tools, and trains teens to embrace 16 life success principles. I really enjoyed using this friendly format. It gets teens' attention and encourages their interaction. There are 8 two-minute video clips that show family members having arguments, problems, conflicts, complaints, tempers, all sorts of issues that take place in typical households with teenagers. Parents can also watch the 10-minute teaching videos for each session and learn from the two parenting experts, Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller (pictured above). The DVD comes with a Parent and Teen Discussion Manual which includes worksheets for teens and parents, main takeaway points, and relevant Bible verses. 

I appreciate the Biblically-based heart approach in this program. I agree that focus on behavior modification appeals to children's selfishness and that a true lasting transformation requires a heart change. The behavioral problems are symptoms of heart issues. We don't want to train our kids up to be a bunch of Pharisees who are perfect on the outside but rotten on the inside. This program offers practical advice and strategies that aim to help teens mature and develop heart qualities such as self-control, responsibility, thoughtfulness, respect, honor, diligence, cooperation, and more. The life success principles taught in the DVD are essential principles that will serve teens well for the rest of their lives. The lessons are filled with parenting wisdom and insights that affirm what I've been doing right and remind me what I need to improve on. I really like the emphasis in the last lesson on honoring one another above ourselves (Romans 12:13). I came up with an acronym for H.O.N.O.R. 
Humbly value others above selves
Obey with a good attitude
Never put others down
Offer others the best
Respect others in words and deeds

16 Life Success Principles:
  1. Be Respectful Even When It's Hard.
  2. Develop Internal Motivation.
  3. Develop Healthy Habits for Following Instructions.
  4. Look for Ways to Contribute to Family Life.
  5. Solve Problems Instead of Generating Conflict.
  6. Instead of Sarcasm, Develop the Skills of a Peacemaker.
  7. Learn to Value Correction.
  8. Apologize Well.
  9. Develop a Plan for Being Responsible.
  10. Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes.
  11. Train Yourself to Accept No as an Answer.
  12. Avoid Arguing.
  13. View Your Family as a Team and Look for Ways to Work Together.
  14. Learn Self-Control to Manage Anger.
  15. Practice Flexibility When Plans Change.
  16. Learn to Handle Unfairness Well.
I highly recommend the Family Toolbox to all families with children ages 10 and up and youth ministry leaders. It is one of the best Biblical parenting resources available.

National Center for Biblical Parenting:
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Note: You're invited to The Family Toolbox Facebook Party today (10/16) from 5-7 p.m. Pacific time. There will be an opportunity for you to ask your parenting questions and win great prizes. They'll be giving away a copy of the Family Toolbox, the Christian Parenting Handbook, $50 and $25 gift cards plus other Biblical parenting resources.

Family Toolbox Facebook Party

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

DVD Review: When Calls the Heart "Change of Heart"

When Calls the Heart--"Change of Heart" is the latest DVD (#6) in the When Calls the Heart television series based on the novel "When Calls the Heart" written by Janette Oke. On this DVD, Julie Thatcher, Elizabeth's younger sister, surprises Elizabeth (Erin Krakow) with her visit in Coal Valley. Julie is accompanied by Mountie Patrick O'Reilly who becomes the new Constable of Coal Valley. He informs Mountie Jack Thornton (Daniel Lissing) that his transfer request has been granted. Instead of being happy and excited, Jack is shocked and upset upon receiving the news. His relationship with Elizabeth is blossoming but now he has to choose between leaving for his dream job and staying to pursue courtship. Elizabeth does not want Jack to leave but does not want him to stay, either. She fears that if he stays and is unable to follow his dreams, he may have resentment towards her someday. Julie falls for a handsome, sweet-talking criminal, Nate, who is a member of the Tolliver Gang. The gang consists of four bank robbers wanted by the Mounties. Abigail Stanton (Lori Loughlin) uncovers truth about the safety violations that caused the mine disaster. As usual, I enjoyed watching the DVD. I am quite fond of the characters. Entertaining and captivating! When Calls the Heart--Change of Heart" is a beautiful story of love, sisterhood, choices, honor, dreams, wisdom/discernment, truth, creative problem-solving, courage, and heroism. Check it out!

~I received a free copy of this DVD via Edify Media, Inc. in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own. 

Sunday, October 5, 2014

Book Review: Ultimate Health

I believe everybody wants to be healthy. However, lots of us are not intentional about how we take care of our health. Ultimate Health is a valuable resource full of information that will help readers stay healthy and strong when they apply what they learn from it. The book starts with the Ultimate Health Assessment which covers 20 areas of our whole health (body, mind, and spirit). The authors encourage us readers to take the preventive and proactive approaches to achieve our ultimate health. We can indeed improve our quality of life and in most cases, extend our length of life by following the simple yet effective steps and guidelines offered in this comprehensive health guide. The topics covered in the book include Mental Management, Eliminating Stress, Strengthening Your Immune System, Exercise, Nutrition, Toxic Elimination, Sleep, Hormones, Vitamins, Managing Your Emotions, Spiritual Wellness, and more. Oral, vision, skin, ear, nose, throat cares are also addressed. At the end of each chapter, there's a list of main take-away points/tips from that chapter. At the end of the book, you will find the Reference Lists of 25 Healthy Foods, 25 Unhealthy Foods, 25 Terms to Know, 25 Actions to Speed Up Your Metabolism, and 25 Tools for Your Ultimate Health Tool Chest. I love these! I also like the here-and-there gray boxes that contain important facts or advice.

Most of us (if not all) would agree that we would love to have more energy and live more productively. Well, it is attainable. Reading this book is like having a personal health coach. Nevertheless, it only works if we take it to heart and take action. We must make some lifestyle changes, develop the daily healthy habits, and keep our mind, body, emotion, and spirit in healthy balance. I'm thankful for the book; I was made aware of several things that I didn't know about or think about. I also appreciate that it's not too technical; it's pretty easy to understand. One of my favorite chapters is the last chapter about Spiritual Wellness which talks about God and mentions Bible verses. I especially love this passage: "There is no Ultimate Health, spiritually speaking, without Godly Wisdom. This means seeing things from God's viewpoint and then responding by applying the principles of truth. With this frame of reference we will be able to withstand the onslaught against us in all spheres of our lives...At life's end, each one of us is forced to confront the spiritual." (p. 148) I highly recommend this educational, insightful, & practical book to anyone who cares about healthy living. Do yourselves a big favor by educating yourselves with this book!

"Ultimate Health is an active process of developing essential daily habits that are restorative and transformative--habits that lead to a vibrant, energetic life for decades to come." (p. 26)
"The difference between health care (preventative medicine) and sick care (going to the doctor after you feel bad) is testing, prevention, and a holistic mind-set about your health." (p. 34)
"The antioxidants in fresh fruits and vegetables cancel out the free radicals that damage our various body tissues as a result of routine daily metabolism, sun exposure, poor dietary habits, and environmental exposures." (p.67)
"There are four basic types of cravings: protein, sugar, carbohydrates, and salt." (p. 110)

~ I received a free copy of this book via The Book Club Network in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own. 

Monday, September 29, 2014

The Family Toolbox Giveaway

I am a member of the Family Toolbox Blogger Team. I'm looking forward to using the Family Toolbox with my family. We have two teen sons left at home. I will be posting my review afterwards. Biblical parenting is so important for us Christians. Consider this quote by John Bunyan: "Your children have souls, and they must be born of God as well of you, or they perish. And know also, that unless you be very circumspect in your behavior to and before them, they may perish through you: the thoughts of which should provoke you, both to instruct, and also to correct them."

The Family Toolbox is a DVD/video-driven program that brings parents and teens together for constructive dialogue around significant issues of discipleship. Conversation is sparked by engaging video clips. Sixteen Life Success Principles are communicated through eight lessons that give parents and teens biblically-based, practical topics for discussion. The format grabs teens and gets them interacting. The Family Toolbox has 8 lessons. Each one has a 1-2 minute scene of a family living life and experiencing common challenges in their relationships. A discussion guide prompts dialogue between parents and teens and a 10-minute teaching session for parents featuring Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN gives practical tools to use right away. Family Toolbox Giveaway I am excited to be joining with the National Center for Biblical Parenting (NCBP) to bring you a wonderful giveaway to celebrate the release of the Family Toolbox.  The giveaway includes a $50 Amazon Gift Card + a bundle of biblical parenting resources from NCBP, including: 

The Christian Parenting Handbook and Companion Guide

The Christian Parenting Handbook contains nuggets of parenting wisdom condensed into 50 short chapters, each one biblical, practical, and relevant for parents of children ages 2-18. Learn appropriate ways to correct, instruct, and set limits. Glean wisdom for dealing with emotions, conflict, and developing closeness in your family… and much more. These 50 strategies provide you with hands-on tools for parenting children of any age.  The Companion Guide is a workbook of 50 lessons along with 50 audio tips to take you through The Christian Parenting Handbook step by step. 

Cultivating Responsibility: Parenting Wisdom for Ages 9-12 Years

The later elementary age years are among the greatest times to build responsibility in children. Heart transformation takes place when parents use other tools than behavior modification. Sometimes though, bad attitudes, disrespect, and a lack of cooperation can muddy the waters. You’ll want to learn from the experts how best to navigate these years. Your children are making significant developmental leaps in their cognitive, social, emotional and spiritual growth. Understanding how best to help children through these years is essential.

Family Heart Moments

The Family Heart Moments book is a treasure. Over 70 inspirational true stories from parents who are eager to connect with their children's hearts. The heart is a special place in the life of a child. You don't want to miss it. This book will give you practical ideas for touching your kids in the deepest place.

Family Time Activity for Teens

Teenagers are in an exciting time of life. They're learning a lot about themselves and the world, and they need lots of spiritual guidance. The activities and applications in this book are designed specifically for teens. The object lessons and games are captivating and the biblical lessons are timeless. Walking Billboards, Fear Factor, and Gender Differences, are just a few of the titles. Nineteen lessons are included, all unique and powerful. Make Family Time a regular part of your family's spiritual growth. 

Learning About Sex: Love, Sex, and God

In a natural, conversational style, this book answers tough questions that help teens separate sex and love facts from myths. Straight facts on dating, marriage, sex, and sexually transmitted diseases are presented here.

Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining and Bad Attitudes, in You and Your Kids

It affects the way people think, the way they act, and the way they treat others around them. Honor motivates parents to treat children differently. It gives children more constructive ways to interact with their parents. It helps siblings develop tolerance and patience. Honor builds incredibly strong bonds that, in turn, benefit all members of the family. This book shows you in practical ways and shows how honor can transform your family. To enter, use the Rafflecopter below. This giveaway is open internationally to those age 18 and older. a Rafflecopter giveaway   Also, please join us for The Family Toolbox Facebook Party on Thursday, October 16, 8-10PM ET where there will be even more great prizes, an opportunity to ask your parenting questions, and lots of fun and fellowship! The winner of this giveaway will be announced at the Facebook party! RSVP for the Party here: Family Toolbox Facebook Party

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Book Review: Child's Play by Bill Myers

About the Author:
Bill Myers is a writer/producer whose work has won over 70 national and international awards including a C.S. Lewis Honor Award. His books and videos have sold over 8 million copies and include, McGee and Me, My Life As..., Blood of Heaven, The Face of God, The God Hater, and Eli. When he’s not overseeing his production company, Amaris Media International, he loves speaking at schools and chatting with reader groups live by phone or the internet.

My Review:
My kids enjoy reading Bill Myers' children books. This is the first book of Bill Myers I've ever read. It's written for adults. I enjoyed it. I laughed. I smiled. I pondered. Child's Play is the first book in The Last Fool Series. It's a funny book with a profound message. Each chapter is written with different characters' point of view. These characters are patients in Sisco Heights Mental Health Facility and the story takes place fifty years in the future when religion has been banned. Anyone who is religious or expresses faith in any religion is considered mentally ill and needs to be locked up. The different characters are quite interesting. Bernard talks to inanimate objects. Darcy steals pills and sells them. Joey is afraid of earth tilting. Nelson quotes everything. Ralphy thinks he's a superhero. Max has amnesia and experiences God. He wants others to know that they are loved by God and that God forgives all their mistakes/wrongdoings/bad thoughts. Dr. Aadil is the doctor/psychiatrist who takes care of these patients. Alex is Max's daughter and is a fashion designer. Saffron is a homeless mom with a 13-year-old daughter. A mayhem ensues.

Child's Play is an easy & enjoyable read and it plainly shares about God's love and childlike faith.  However, an assumption/presentation that everyone is a child of God is not theologically correct. All of us are God's creation but not all of us are His children. Only those who trust in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior are adopted into God's family as children of God. The rest are considered enemies of God (Romans 5:10). I understand that the author intends to reach out to non-believers with the message of God's love. God does love all of us sinners before we ever come to Him. I applaud the author's attempt to share the Gospel through his writing. I look forward to reading the next book in the series.

~I received a free copy of this book via The Book Club Network ( in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own.

Monday, September 8, 2014

DVD Review and Giveaway: Hero

Hero is a movie about the importance of fathers and the impact that fathers have on their sons who do look up to them. Joe Finn, a baseball coach, returns home after being away for 7 years in pursuit of his career as a scout for the big leagues, hoping to get rich. He only gets to spend 2 weeks with his wife, Hannah, who has cancer before she dies. He is left with his son, David, who holds a grudge against him. One thing they share is their love for baseball. Joe hopes to mend his relationship with David by offering to coach David's dying, non-competitive little league team, the Gappers. Joe decides to form a new baseball league that practices diligently, plays competitively, and aims to reconnect fathers and sons in the community.

I cried during the movie. My father was absent from most of my life. I forgave him and had a chance to be at his death bed (even though he was unresponsive). It really touched me to see dads wanting to be there for their sons. A father can make a huge difference in his child's life. I'm so thankful that my husband is very involved with our two sons (and daughter). In the film, a prisoner cares enough to do everything he can to teach his son baseball even behind the prison's fence. Great cast! Check out this heart-warming, inspiring movie about the values of fatherhood, sports, forgiveness, restoration, and transformation! It will come to DVD on September 16th.

"And He shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers." Malachi 4:6 KJV

~I received a free copy of this DVD via Edify Media, Inc. in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own.